I understand the DB concept. Make the changes for me so I can move forward a better person, with or without her. If she ends up coming back then that just makes it better.
Yep, that's a reasonable crib note version. So What are you working on? What didn't you like about your role in the M?
Originally Posted By: StilH2O
I have a pretty negative attitude and a quick temper so I've been working with IC on those.
Where do those come from? Have you dug into them? How are you addressing?
Originally Posted By: StilH2O
I guess my point is that life is short, how long can/should I wait on her to come around before looking for someone else to spend my life with? I'm definitely willing to hold off on that for now, but I don't know if I can make it for several months or years, like some of the posters here.
This question is asked over and over....usually very early in someone's sitch. Ultimately, it's a personal choice....you have to decide what is right for you.
For me, I really focused on becoming the man only a fool would leave. Only when I thought I'd got there was I really ready to let go. Once I'd made my changes and they'd been accepted as real and lasting....when there were no longer any excuses for her to not work on the M....then it was time for me. Of course, even post D, and dating, I still have a twinkle of hope in the back of my mind that she addresses her issues and reconciliation could happen down the road....and I've been D'd for almost a year.
