Bottom line is this-- Your W thinks that you hold grudges. And, as Byron Katie says, "when you argue with reality, you lose 100 percent of the time." That you hold grudges or that she doesn't may not be true, but that's her reality. This means that you need to stop the grudge-holding and taunting whether it's fair or not if you want her feelings to soften toward you. As a woman I can say that I really don't like that in a guy. Do what works. JMO.
Agreed. And I've been doing that since 2/14 with great results up until this weekend. I could have brought up SO MUCH STUFF yesterday if I wanted to sink to her level and I didn't.
I'm getting better at this....slowly but surely. Bringing up stuff she said from the past won't help me or our marriage.
Me: 33 W: 27 S: 5 D: 2 Bomb: 1/2/14 First Separation: 1/25/14 MC: 2/7/14 (one time only) Moved Back in: 3/31/14 W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14 Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
