I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

She says I hold grudges worse than anyone she knows. Okay...I do like to remember little things and bring them back up, usually just to taunt (trying to 180) but nothing vindictive or hurtful that I can think of ever

My w says the same thing but by our w calling us out on it and making us suffer are they not holding grudges just as bad? My wife says I hold grudges all the time but then she gets to withhold sex for 11 yrs. Is this not holding a grudge? makes no sense to me!

This is absolutely hysterical. When my wife said "she still feels like she has to be careful what she says around me," I'm pretty sure it means that she will say something I "may" use against her down the road. And by using it against her, I would just mention it in conversation.

For instance, when we agreed to separate. I was literally sitting right there when she told her parents that we were separating for a little while, that it's not life-altering, that we just need to take a timeout from each other.

We go to the MC one time (11 days after she told her parents that) and she tells me that she doesn't think our marriage can work, she's as happy as she's been in years, and that "she's just done."

I say "so when you told your parents that we were just separating for a little while, it's not life-altering, and that we needed a timeout....you were just lying?"

W says: (looks at the MC) and says "see what I mean, he holds everything I say against me and I can't say anything to him without fear he'll bring it up months or years later."

I say: "You said that less than two weeks ago."

W says: ....................