Tough.. here is what I have discovered recently. For me it is possible to let go and still have hope because I have completely changed what I am hoping for. At first I was hoping for a R of my marriage. Now I do not want that at all. My marriage, I can now see, was cr@p. What I now hope us that ny h will emerge from whatever he is going through as a whole healthy person. I hope I will have an opportunity to get to know that person. Maybe that will be a person I can build a new relationship with. At the least I hope that will be a persOn I can coparent successfully with.
What I an letting go of are any expectations of h or my marriage. It is honestly very freeing. When you first come on here you are told you are getting the gift of time. This us so true. I have had 6 months to start figuring out who I am and who I want to be with or without h.
Only you can decide what steps to take when letting go. Right now I am choosing to deal with whatever h throws at me because I am not ready to split time with my s.
When you think of letting go what does that mean to you?
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15
