I agree that it's so much easier to detach when their behavior is negative. Our natural instinct is to run in the opposite direction when that happens.

Positive interactions somehow allow that feeling of hope and good memories to creep in. It takes a pleasant moment and infuses it with the feeling of loss and we begin to doubt ourselves and if we're making the right decisions.

I don't know how long it takes to get off that mini rollercoaster.


Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014