One ~ I see a positive when Smokey says he would like to continue more visits with D11. Secondly ~ I can see how it feels like control to him. This he probably resents and blames you for it.
I understand how its in the best interest for your daughter. But is it possible that you are demanding it a bit too harsh? Maybe let it come from your daughter, not so much you.
It would be better for you, if you removed the control of their visits. If it were the courts suggestions he wouldn't be resenting you.
I see that somehow you could benefit by being on the same team as him. I am happy he wants time with his daughter. Maybe, Help him to get there.
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I am in no position to give advice... but I see a man attempting to have time with his child. And you are a woman who is 'standing' for your relationship.
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OH... and on the "HOW CAN HE NOT WANT ME???" feelings. I have wondered that myself. Drove me crazy. I have looked in the mirror thinking it was ME. It wasn't. It was him. And it was me, mindreading. He does WANT ME!! My h is just scared.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
