Omg mr bond. Sounds similar to my stbxw view on therapy. Died laughing. Not at your pain of course...just at how ridiculous they are.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
Oh gosh. I have some good ones to add. After BD, h and I went to test out 2 marriage counselors. He told both of them "he didn't think he wanted the relationship to work." Afterwards, he sent me a text saying they both certainly seemed very pro marriage. Duh. ( his parents have been married. 47 years and mine 51)
When I told h at BD we needed to work on the marriage, he said that was exactly like me to want to keep the family together. He said he just googled coparenting and it looked fine.
And my all time favorite post BD, he said he hated the way I ate tacos.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Oh my other favorite was h saying he never loved me. Exactly half an hour later he started crying because the problem was he always loved me more than I loved him.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Three months after BD, after saying and doing some things that have given me quite a bit of hope, H clarifies that in fact, he has zero desire to be M to me or anyone else, now or ever, and that he wants to proceed with D.
me: "isn't this kind of a weird conversation to have via text message?"
H: "yeah, but when we talk face to face I tend to want to have sex with you."
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
Yes , when he told me that my taco eating skills were flawed, I just secretly added that to the stack of insane comments:)
Another good one was when we were sitting in traffic on the way to dinner. He said in a very exasperated tone,"you planned this. You knew I would be hungry and that we would be stuck in traffic." Exactly!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
I just posted this in my thread about my WAW making this comment. Mind you that this was after we had had a couple of good weeks, hadn't seen her in a few days, but her mom and her had a bit of a "talk" about what's going on which probably made her mad (and in turn, mad at me).
She was making comments similar to what she was saying after we were first separated. For instance, our son was watching Star Wars. I made a comment about how cool it would be to be able to do a Jedi Mind Trick. You would have thought I just kicked a baby with that comment. "Why would you want to be able to do that? That's so shady." She went on and on for another 30 seconds about it. You....cannot....make....this....stuff....up.
Me: 33 W: 27 S: 5 D: 2 Bomb: 1/2/14 First Separation: 1/25/14 MC: 2/7/14 (one time only) Moved Back in: 3/31/14 W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14 Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
Three months after BD, after saying and doing some things that have given me quite a bit of hope, H clarifies that in fact, he has zero desire to be M to me or anyone else, now or ever, and that he wants to proceed with D.
me: "isn't this kind of a weird conversation to have via text message?"
H: "yeah, but when we talk face to face I tend to want to have sex with you."
I'm not as close to D as you are Melissa but this made me laugh. The whole sex thing w/ a WAS is so strange.
My wife always cuts my hair. Usually, I'm just wearing my boxer briefs or a towel. Of course I needed a hair cut. I asked her if she wanted to do it if not I could go somewhere to get it done. She said, "I don't think that's a good idea because I'd be seeing you with just a towel on and I will just want to have sex with you." Hey, at least she still finds me attractive.
But it just goes to show you how messed up a WAS really is. They will avoid anything that will conjure up good feelings toward a LBS in order to maintain their negative opinion of you.
Me: 33 W: 27 S: 5 D: 2 Bomb: 1/2/14 First Separation: 1/25/14 MC: 2/7/14 (one time only) Moved Back in: 3/31/14 W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14 Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
I found it funny when my h asked "are you ok?" or "what's wrong" when I was being quiet & reading alone a couple weeks after BD. Really?? What do you think is wrong?? No I'm not ok... of course I answered "i'm fine" but wtf?
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
This was after BD when she was venting about everything and then she brought up a wildlife identification book I put in her stocking at Christmas.
I bought four different books for the family for our camping trips and I guess she was mad that the bird book was the one I randomly put in her stocking. I guess I should have known better.. HA!
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
