Barrybran IV - Three Years Forward, 30 Years Back

[Barrybran]

It is but I am really confused right now about everything. I have to state my feelings but when I do they're ignored. I have to make decisions and be proactive but when I do they're disregarded. My wife expects me to do things her way when her way is chaos and my way is usually organised. It's really confusing. I've had my confidence rattled with just about everything lately.

Admittedly, I hadn't thought about how I would deal with my son. My post was about my wife and yet there's another example of how I think I'm clear and yet you read my post as being about my son. I'm clearly not clear. The situation I described in the previous post was an example of the dynamics between my wife and I regarding the kids. My kids will do something, I'll step in and make a request, issue an instruction, ask a question, and my wife handles the situation in the kids' favour in front of me. I know I have to choose my battles but I do feel it will result in the kids becoming manipulative as well as my wife giving the message to the kids that "it's ok to disregard what Dad says. You can come to me." I find her behaviour extremely disrespectful and yet I can't cross her because I have to choose my battles, can't explain myself properly and I have to keep the road home paved and smooth. It's frustrating.