Thanks guys! What about the financial situation? I know I can bring more in to the household but I am afraid to get an increase at this stage of the game (remember that I own my own business). What are you afraid of? I don't get this at all. She might not have to work at all and might love the freedom to go back to school or be home with the kids...those things are appealing....Wouldn't making more money make the situation LESS stressful for all?
OR are you planning for a divorce and wanting to protect yourself (at the kids/her expense?)
Sorry b/c I know your heart is in the right place. But so far, mostly of what I see is a man desperately trying to control the outcome and manipulate his wife...again.
I rather have just enough to cover expenses instead of thinking about increasing my income now. We are basically paycheck to paycheck now since she took on a lower paid job right at the time of the Bomb. Since we didn't event talk around that time, her pay cut was surely going to get us pay to to paycheck. We are now seeing it on our accounts. We have enough to survive but not extra to save or pay off cards faster (which is what she wants to do asap).
so you ARE trying to control HER by purposely living paycheck to paycheck...
well it's not like I'm suggesting you go get a BIG pay raise, but your whole family is suffering now and your w is miserable..
I don't see how that makes You as a h, more appealing. You are using the stick instead of the carrot.
But it's all, still, about what you can do to "make her" do or feel something.
Stop mind reading her and just WORK ON YOU.
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