One year in but a newbie

[Lifes Twists]

So, I have been continuing to work on myself and to grow the relationship with my daughters. My interactions with my daughters has greatly improved over the last few weeks. Yesterday I had dinner with all three daughters and my oldest opened up to me about her life in a way that she has not done since this whole thing with W started. Today i drove her back to her college and the conversation continued with her telling me things and seeking support and advice. I feel on top of the world right now with this development.

Unfortunately I also learned after returning home that the W was out on a date. I found this out when I went to drop off the support money and found her car there, but my two youngest home alone. They tried to cover for her, but eventually told me what was going on. They were concerned with how I would react to the news. I did not over react. I just said to my daughters that she had to figure out things for herself. I told them that If I eventually start dating and meet someone and that their mother find out the grass is not always greener on the other side that she may be too late. I kept very calm and did not show any emotion.

I have been spending time with the W working on financial aid and other stuff to cover our girls education. I had thought we were getting along much better than we have been. She was much nicer, interacting well, and working together with no issues.

I will continue to work on myself, GAL, and be there for my daughters.

How do I react to her next time we interact? Do I acknowledge what is going on or do I kinda put blinders on and go on as I have been? We are going to be going South Carolina together with my two youngest daughters to visit a college my middle daughters is interested in. How do I handle myself on this trip? Any advice or suggestions will be greatly appreciated.