melissa #999

[paul19510]

It's interesting, because up until the point where I filed for S, I wasn't done at all.

It's his behavior, now that things aren't going his way, that makes me realize he is not what I want in a partner. And maybe the reason he left is because I spent years trying to make him be more when he simply never was.

I feel like someone has this MLK, Jr. quote in his/her signature:

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

I know where I want to stand (and have worked hard to do so), and now I know where my H stands.

holy cow M!!! I just had the same feelings. please read my entry in WAW seems confused. Once I filed and got out of limbo, I see my situation completely differently. I didn't hurt that D16 kind of spelled it out for me either. Now W is acting as herself. I actually asked my sis yesterday, "....was she always like this....?!?..." over something very abrasive W did. She laughed and said "...yes. you just didn't want to see it....You loved her...."

W actually vented to my D16 that she'd stayed as long as she did because I made ALOT of money. otherwise she'd have left me years ago....WTF????

I now see W completely differently. I've begun to meet new people and I am seeing qualities in these people that I really would like in a partner some day. Each day I am much less concerned about W and where she is or what she wants. in fact, she still has stuff at my house and I want it gone. ugh.

We seem to be on similar paths....perhaps its just me...but we do.

I am learning a lot from watching your situation. thanks!