own buz 23:mediation to reconcilliation, PATIENCE!

[makingmagic]

"THIS is what I am wanting to hear. I am ready to listen. The only piece of advice on this "attraction" I recall, is you suggesting slight touches."

BS. I've told you many times how to "attract" him. You just don't know how to take in the message. I told you to listen and become a safe place for him to open up. THAT is one part of attraction. Just because I literally don't say the word "attraction", at this point you should be smart enough to know that's what it means..... "smart enough", is an insult ... I am not a mind reader for you either! Be more clear

"You encourage me to not require validation, to stand behind my own decision... when I made the decision to have a boundary.. you DID challenge me on it."

I NEVER challenged you on standing behind your own decision. The issue was that you were making the wrong decisions by who's definition.. Please see proceeding post that were pushing him away how was I pushing him away, what decicisions are pushing him away? . AND that's not what I referred to by you falling back on old habits. You're mixing up all of the messages. Yes, the messages are mixed up. Each poster has their own view The sheer volume of your questions is beginning to get mixed up in your head. You CONSTANTLY ask for help from EVERYONE and are getting things mixed up. I am not CONSTANTLY asking from ANYONE.. I have been only journalling my confused thoughts. I appreciate ALL the comments/advice.color]

"I am not trying to prove anything to you. I ask that you start to believe that I have been listening and acting on what you suggest."

You haven't and I don't need to "start believing" anything. That's more control on your part. [color:#00CCCC] I dont know what else to say here. I know that I listen and act on your suggestions. If you dont see it.. oh well

"Here is where you are wrong Bond. You are assuming again that I am believing that I am being tricked. I am not. "

Really? You just wrote this the other day. "Note: The other day when the client first gave one bottle of wine, he made the reference that he would like to try it too. Likely figuring that I would jump on that and invite him. " That's all mindreading and you think he is planning something. You've done this from day one. I am suggesting here that it is mindreading, but not tricking. There is a difference. I am suggesting that he and I both know my typical old behaviour, mine is to pursue. I did not pursue when he leaned on wanting to try the wine. I opted to let it go.

You're going to have to learn to communicate better on here. Whatever happened to repeating what someone commented to you so that you "understand"? I have, just not all the time. Please see following post.