Hi, I have read the book, and think it is excellent, and helpful, although I think even she underestimates the time it takes to recover, especially from a long marriage.
I agree with her that in so many cases there is an underlying personality disorder. However there are two areas that she doesn't really cover - the 'runaways' that do not go away and leave the spouse alone. They run, but continue in contact from afar.
The second point is that in many cases, some years on, the spouse if fine but the runaway is in less good shape emotionally, psychologically and often financially. I think many runaways come to regret their actions, but lack the skills to rebuild, because they don't have relationship skills in the first place, never did the work, and have little self knowledge.
