Adjusting to my new reality

[labug]

Peeling back those layers is sometimes painful but worth it in the end.

I think by the number of very good questions you still have, it may be time to just sit a little longer.

H's single lifestyle is a cakewalk, no responsibility, no obligation. And my gut tells me he tries desperately to convince himself he's happy with that. But d18 says he tells her how lonely he is and he's depressed.

So does that sound like a cakewalk? Would you want to be in his skin?

If I can't be self sacrificing enough to be there for big and small things, should I file for divorce and stop fooling myself?

What are you fooling yourself about?

Loving your husband unconditionally doesn't require self-sacrifice, at least not as I see it. You can love him unconditionally, accepting him just as he is and not be married to him. I've read this: I can love you unconditionally but I don't have to unconditionally accept your actions.

Google one crafty mother to those who love an alcoholic

You're not to blame for his addiction. Take care of you.