A twist on cake-eating & dropping a bomb of my own

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Hi T-boned. H was coming over to do some tax stuff and I knew he would want to talk. And we did. He's been very busy seeing a L and accumulating docs to get each other off bank accounts. He wanted to divide up some cash and stuff we had at the house so he could put it in his new safe deposit box.

H said he had been to a temple over there and had so some sort of awakening ... that he realized he had to put aside his anger and treat his enemies the same as he would treat a friend.

He was very calm, said he accepted that we were getting a D and was only concerned about running his business and wanted nothing more. He said he was going to start taking care of himself (uhh... I thought that was what he's been doing all this time??)

He said he wants our CPA to value the business, divide it down the middle and buy me out over time. He doesn't want to do a financial disclosure because he doesn't want it "on the public record." Seems suspicious to me.

He said he was in no hurry and told me to take all the time I needed to get things done. He said he didn't expect all would be finalized until about October. So, he's in a hurry to separate and divide financial stuff, but wants us to take our time finalizing the D??

He is behaving so differently from the way he has behaved during the past 6 months. He has been carrying around a lot of anger and had a hair trigger. Now he is completely calm. He's trying to repair R's that have been stormy, getting closer to his brother, being more friendly and not as controlling at the office. It's like a new alien has taken over. He is behaving more like his old self and insists he is a different person than the one he has been for over a year.

I am going to have to think on this one ... not sure if he is being genuine or not. I suspect that he has working on patching up relationships with employees he hates because he knows he needs them to run the business here when I leave. I have always believed that helping in the business was the only reason he still "needed" me in his life.

We talked a lot about trust and I said I wanted to trust him, but he had to give me some proof that the A was over. He swore it was, but even after telling him what I needed to see (cc statements, phone texts) he didn't volunteer to "prove" anything. I believe the R with OW is alive and well .... mostly based on her Facebook page.

I let him know that this whole process saddened me but did not back down on wanting a D and did not object to the bank acct stuff or fairly dividing what was here at the house.

He was here all day, we went out to dinner and he gave me a hug and brief kiss before he left.

So that's where it stands ... I don't know if he is playing nice so I won't be as demanding as I could be in D or if he really has doubts that he wants to go through with this. I guess only time will tell.