Unlearning conflict avoidance - 10

[MrBond]

There is so much passive aggressiveness in your post. And alot of mindreading about your W. Saying that she was "irritatedly saying" doesn't mean anything. You don't know if it's because of you or if there was something else on her mind. Did you ever think about asking her if she's okay, rather than just assuming it's about you?

Why should she have to call you to family breakfast? You're trying to control her. If you want to do something about it, then you cook something and offer it to everyone. If she doesn't want to participate, it's her choice. You just shrug it off and say "well you don't know what you're missing." and then end it with no expectations.

"I don't go to meetups though, as perhaps it could be construed as looking for a new woman, and my W would start looking for a new guy."

First of all, you don't know what she would think. Second, who cares what she thinks. And third, you're not doing anything to salvage your current M, so why do you care if she finds a new guy?

"Have gone 6 times to yoga though, and met a few new people. I am generally more social in the US than here, via meetup (drumming, French, a political and cultural group)."

You do know that those attending yoga have a higher chance of an affair than just a meetup. Just as a thought, you could always ASK your W if she wanted to go with you.

What other activity can you do with your D besides walking and seeing a movie? How about just something as simple as going out for ice cream? Or getting it for your family?

Do something different.