I'm not sure how to link threads from my phone so I'll just give a quick recap.
Together for 4.5 years She left because of my anger(rage) Broken up for 14 months I spent that time in counseling, reading self help books etc. She came back(said I was the love of her life, we were engaged again, blah blah) Were together for another 7 months She left again for various reasons, but I believe we didnt piece properly I'm still working on myself She started online dating about 2.5 months after break up She's been with om for about 2 months I think I'm ok, but maybe I'm fooling myself or maybe I'm faking it til I make it.
Anyway....
The past week has been pretty much the same. She's friendly, we have dinner, texts are funny at times etc.
She's been making a big effort to see our son lately. I think she is starting to miss him. She cried on the bus the other day saying she really misses him.
Tonight was another strange one. It was her night with him but I offered to pick her up from work so she could see him sooner. She had called me from her work to discuss tonight. She asked what I was doing tonight. I tried to beat around the bush(mystery), but ended up saying my plans were up in the air(truth). Somehow the conversation turned to our past r. Not by me though. I just wanted to drop it but she continues to talk. She talks about how I hurt her and I catch myself getting defensive so I try to stop the conversation. I'm sick so I sound really upset. Which I was but it seemed to amplify it. I just tell her I'll pick her up after work.
I picked her up and we went to the grocery store because she wanted to get some food so we could make dinner. All her idea. She said let's get food and play some rockband. I said sure. It seems our phone conversation is water under the bridge. Great! We make food, play with our son and some rockband. Had lots of fun. It's getting late so s3 just crashes here. We end up watching some old dexter from where we last watched(haven't watched tv with her for over 2 months). She almost passes out but wakes up. She even mentioned that she should just crash here, but I think I know why she didnt...
I asked her about manipulation. She says I do that a lot. I researched manipulation and I fit into the category most people do. I don't do it with the intent to get something from her. My manipulation is based on her belief system. If she feels guilty or played then basically that's me manipulating her. Fair enough. I'd like to figure out a way where my actions/words have the least chance of coming across as manipulation. Anyway, I believe the reason she didnt crash here was because she thinks I manipulated tonight. She said that tonight went exactly how I wanted. Funny, because tonight was all her idea. I was completely fine just hanging out by myself. I didnt mention dinner or rockband or anything. Whatever, it's in her head that I manipulated so I'll let her believe that. It will take many more times before she realizes my intentions are pure and not manipulative.
She ended up going home at 2:30am. I'm just going with the flow. She could've gone home at any time but she decided to stay that late.
I'm starting to wonder if I'm cake eating. I mean, there are about 3-4 women I'm currently chatting with(gone out with one girl twice). I'm clear to everyone that I'm just looking for friends to go out with. It's all in the name of socializing with new people, something that is a definite 180 for me. I usually stick with my core group of friends.
My ex has really been acting strange lately, even by her standards. She's a very very honest person, but somehow I can't see her telling mr. Awesome about all the times she's hung out with me. I'm just going to keep doing this one day at a time and just observe all the strangeness.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
