living with WAW who hasn't walked yet

[nit84]

zew,

You and I think alike in a lot of ways. One of the differences is I am only paying half of the bills and none of W expenses anymore.

She had a job, passed up on a job, could get a job in a different line of work if she really desired to.

I have no sympathy in that regard for my W. She has always valued having a job I believe. Although, a couple of times early in the M her and her Mom did mention a couple of times that when we have kids it would be nice because she would be home.

I always said that we really need 2 incomes to live like we desired and 1 income, especially at the time, was not enough to do that.

Subconsciously, maybe them saying that affected my thinking and led to the assumption by some people that I never wanted kids.

This past year was my best ever money wise and W was only there for half of it. We now could afford for her to stay home with kids. It is not why I asked her to start a family back in May but seeing what I made this past year I know that everything would work out.

I also am a man of my word when it comes to M and M vows that is why I am standing.

Like you I am hoping this is just a phase and by working on myself during her journey it will make things easier either way down the road.

I am sorry that I didn't work on myself sooner but you have to start somewhere and that is what you and I have done.

I'm not sure how to put this and if it will sound strange or not but for me personally this has been an eye-opening experience. I now have more knowledge about myself I love myself now and kinda feel bad for my W in a way.

While she is out possibly living a fantasy that she believes is reality and way better than M with me, which is her right, she is missing out on the person she fell in love enough to M, improving in ways even he didn't think were possible just 8 Months ago.

It sounds to me as if you are taking some if not all of the power back in your sitch. That's a great feeling I bet!