H moving out tomorrow

[TL72*]

Thanks T-boned
good to know about the going dark & contact about important issues, it can be confusing to know if you're doing the right thing and I hate analyzing everything I do. Time to "let it go" and trying to stop wondering about it all the time. I hear ya on the voice thing, but at the same time when he called last week to pick up the last of his things it was so surreal, like talking to someone I barely knew. Today has been good, the weather is good and I went to the store, bought myself lunch and a lottery ticket came home and cleaned, did trash, litter boxes, kitchen, walked the dogs and re-organized my other closet. Now my things are spread out and the empty holes he left are filled. Now if I could do that in my heart i realize it's early and I'm trying to push this pain along when in reality it will take awhile. You had your house appraised, I'll have to go read your sitch - are you keeping it and just refi-ing or are you going to sell it? I have the house and have to refi within a year which will be costly, just something else I have to accept. I don't want to add selling the house to this mess right now, maybe when i'm further along. Since we don't have kids I figure he has no reason to ever speak to me again once I get the final papers and take him off my health insurance. That will be April when the D is final and I can send in that paperwork, til then he is paying me his half of it. He's so stubborn I can see him just never coming back. Can't worry about it, must move forward! Part of me still thinks he will realize that the grass isn't greener and that I really am not to blame for all of his issues. Ok enough obsessing on this for today going to go do some more house chores and make this place into my own personal sanctuary! thanks again for your support.