own buz 23:mediation to reconcilliation, PATIENCE!

[PatientMan]

Perhaps your little squirrel is sincere and is feeling out a reconciliation with you. Don't move, though, or you'll scare him off.

Or maybe he is just trying you on, like a piece of clothing, to see how you fit. And if you don't fit right, he might leave you in crumpled heap in the changing room at GAP to go find something else.

Or maybe he is just trying to keep you on his hook to keep his options open. Maybe he doesn't really want you, but he realizes he doesn't want to necessarily lose the ability to exercise his call option on you.

It could be any of those three, or even something else. And there is no way of knowing what the truth is.

So what do you do?

The same thing you should have been doing all along. DB'ing, GAL'ing, working on you, being a woman only a fool would leave, keeping the road paved home smooth, acting honorably...just read Sandi's 37 rules every day until you are living them out of habit.

He'll let you know if and when it's time to move forward with a new R.

Oh, and the OW doesn't exist to you. You can set up a personal boundary, FOR YOU, regarding her, but other than that she doesn't exist.

This is a journey for you, not a puzzle to figure out how to put together.

-PM