I may have done too much

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Re: I may have done too much Lost! #2434805 03/01/14 03:55 PM
Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 58 Maine D D2ndday OP Member
OP D2ndday Member D Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 58 Maine	Hey Lost!, thank you for checking in. I am ok, I am just taking things as they come. Not planning, not overthinking, not snooping. The past few days she has been out of the house have been, ok. I mean I actually did pretty well with her not here. I did not spend any real time thinking about it. Stayed focused on me, and what I was going to do. Got a lot done. She came home last night and stayed here. Was here this morning. and will be here for the weekend. I made a point when I cam home last night that I was just going to go about the routine I do when she is not here. Not lingering, not waiting for her to say something. She was polite, and asked how work went, how my back was(post tattoo). I kept my answers short. Stayed focused on what I was doing. Made eye contact when talking, but didn't let it change what I was doing. I am polite as well. But I keep my answers short, I am listening when she is talking. I am not talking about my GAL, I am just doing it. I am upbeat, and motivated. I made dinner, sat down and ate it while she talked. Same thing this morning. Normally I would have a smoke with her before she left for work, but instead just went up to take my shower. Did not wait for a goodbye, or waive when she left. Trying to not think about how weird this feels. Its hard to look at her for extended periods, since I avoid it. It just makes me miss her. Feelings come up. So, I keep to the task at hand. I am still here, reading. I have a new routine. It has been working for me. I have gotten really focused on improving my health, strength building. I also have been working hard, which is already really helping my career. I feel, ok. Which is nice. That's a big change for me. I don't know what will happen. But that's ok. Which is another big change from my need to plan, and control. Staying in the moment. Not letting myself worry about what could be coming or might happen. My GAL routine is helping. Detaching. I am still polite but I think I am getting the difference between being a friend and being friendly. I stopped leaving notes in reply to hers. I don't know, I just am focused on me, and trying not to think about her, where we are, what's going to happen, is there a future, any of that. Right now, it is just about, get healthy, work, spending time with the pets, and trying to be happy with me, right now. Now I say all this, I have had a few days without her here, she is here this weekend. hopefully I will be able to stay focused. Me:36 Her:35 together 11yrs M 7 1/2yrs lived together 10yrs 2dogs 2cats Mortgage on a house bomb dropped 01/12/14 Separate bedrooms/W stays here some nights I want to stay married

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I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/21/14 05:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/22/14 05:11 PM
(NA) Re: I may have done too much	KarenR	01/22/14 06:32 PM
(NA) Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/22/14 10:15 PM
Re: (NA) Re: I may have done too much	25yearsmlc	01/30/14 02:31 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/24/14 07:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/25/14 05:37 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/29/14 04:20 AM
Re: I may have done too much	FlyOnTheWall	01/29/14 06:52 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	01/29/14 03:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/29/14 06:45 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/29/14 05:07 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/29/14 11:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/30/14 12:18 AM
Re: I may have done too much	FlyOnTheWall	01/30/14 01:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/30/14 11:31 PM
Re: I may have done too much	inafog	01/31/14 03:58 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/02/14 08:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/03/14 04:56 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	02/03/14 08:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/04/14 05:08 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/05/14 01:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/06/14 03:29 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/06/14 09:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/08/14 06:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lifes Twists	02/08/14 03:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/16/14 04:05 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/16/14 05:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/17/14 03:42 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/18/14 11:29 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/18/14 04:39 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/18/14 07:44 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/19/14 03:22 AM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/19/14 04:14 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/19/14 05:50 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/19/14 06:53 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/20/14 04:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/20/14 06:49 PM
Re: I may have done too much	blinded	02/20/14 08:14 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/20/14 11:31 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/21/14 04:45 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	02/21/14 03:52 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/21/14 05:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/22/14 04:17 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/22/14 06:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/22/14 08:51 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/22/14 10:21 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/23/14 12:09 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 03:24 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 03:59 AM
Re: I may have done too much	trying very hard	02/23/14 01:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 04:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/24/14 03:00 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/24/14 02:25 PM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/24/14 03:52 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/26/14 04:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/26/14 06:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/28/14 03:43 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/01/14 01:41 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/01/14 03:55 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/01/14 10:14 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lostinpain	03/02/14 01:25 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/02/14 01:48 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/02/14 04:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/05/14 06:06 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/08/14 05:01 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/10/14 02:32 PM
Re: I may have done too much	unbidden	03/10/14 02:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/10/14 02:43 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/14/14 03:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/14/14 06:11 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/15/14 03:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/15/14 03:46 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/16/14 09:47 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/17/14 03:58 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/17/14 06:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	03/18/14 02:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Wonka	03/18/14 02:42 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	03/18/14 08:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/19/14 03:32 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/21/14 12:27 AM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/21/14 01:59 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/21/14 03:10 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/21/14 04:55 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/22/14 03:47 PM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/22/14 05:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	paul19510	03/22/14 07:46 PM
Re: I may have done too much	paul19510	03/22/14 07:49 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Duds3	03/22/14 09:03 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/24/14 04:39 PM
Re: I may have done too much	blinded	02/24/14 08:05 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/25/14 04:05 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:23 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:28 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/25/14 03:54 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 04:42 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 05:01 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/26/14 05:01 AM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/25/14 04:07 PM
Re: I may have done too much	InLikeFlynn	02/17/14 03:42 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/31/14 04:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	inafog	01/31/14 04:14 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/31/14 04:28 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/31/14 07:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/01/14 05:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/29/14 06:41 PM
Re: I may have done too much	knittedscarff	02/03/14 06:06 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/03/14 07:12 PM

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