Hi PM... not sure "involved" is the right word. I think they occassionally speak on the phone. Their relationship is quite distanced. I think he enjoys the "attention", but she is not too giving of it (protecting herself, she has been hurt before). He says it is not at all like our whirlwind beginning nor is any effort put into it... she didnt even call him on christmas or nye. He is disappointed. He says he feels used by her (car issue), and he didn't respond to go rescue her either. She travels for work (in dog business), says he isn't into her lifestyle. He has said he has mentioned to her that in mediation, reconcilliation came out... that he was thinking of it. He says I am not in competition with her. I think he is enjoying a little ego kibble.
He "talks" with her, but spends time with me.
... just realized something. He is eagerly desperate to have a vacation. If he "really" wanted to, he could be travelling with her.
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Just yesterday, we were discussing the options of purchasing a new computer for me (business), and I jokingly stated that I might need to have a meeting in Miami. He lit up and said we should be doing business in the south, possibly Texas too. (he has wanted to show me Texas) ~~~~ These are trips! He is not considering doing business there other than poking around to see whats happening in our industry in these states (getting an education). It would be way too expensive to import from that far away. He knows this.
I know he desperately wants to have a vacation. I know he wants to travel with me. We travel very well together, we have alot of fun. He stated within the last month ~ How some separated couples will vacation together. He liked this idea.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
