Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

Asking for some veteran help.

I was just taking a shower and getting ready for some GALing today. When I had a strong feeling came across me.

I have had these before and around half the time I am correct. So that is why I feel I would like to be prepared.

This feeling is that my W, when she returns from being away for the weekend(She told me she was going, I didn't ask), is going to either confess or admit to an A. I am not going ask her or confront her. I think she will do it on her own, for her own reasons.

Are there any specific threads that anybody knows about and would recommend from members where an A is not a deal breaker that could help me to sort out what to say. Whether it be an admittance or a confession preferably some of both types that might be helpful.

They are two different things and must be handled in different manners correct?

If it had to be one or the other, I would hope that it is a confession and some, even if only a smidge of remorse to start, is shown.

I feel if it is an admittance that will be tougher to deal with because the likelyhood of remorse is greatly diminished. This would be more of a "I am having an A, it is what I want, and wanted to be up front with you." Even though I feel she hasn't really been up front about anything so far in our S.

Whichever it might be I believe in myself to handle it in a way that will be non-confrontational and not hurt my Sitch, it will just add another thing to the list to work on if we R.

The possibility of this happening is not making me spin or worry about it. It is just a feeling I have at the moment.

My DB coach and I touched just briefly on this in my last session but only talked about what type of person I am in regards to, if an A is found out, wanting to ask questions as many questions as possible about an A vs not wanting to know any details and just knowing that an A is taking place is enough. I told her TBH I wasn't sure. She said that is ok don't stress over it and do some research to help figure it out.

Thanks for any help!!