Ad, I do get your point. Truly. And it is something I see as a problem and I am working on. (It's one of those things that I can so easily recognize in someone else, but not so much in myself all the time.)
Right now, I feel like I am on the battlefield and I am just trying to avoid the land mines . . . it is much more of a reactive than proactive place at the moment. I'm not excusing myself, I'm just pointing out why it may sound like I am heavy on the emotional reactions in my threads.
I actually think I have come pretty far in this regard . . . I used to go into a tailspin very time my H moved a muscle, let alone spoke. Even when it came to fairly benign things.
I will be honest and say that I do still have immediate smart ass responses that pop into my head . . . but I am not sure those will ever go away.
Ad, do you *actually* not have that immediate emotional reaction to things anymore, or do you have it, but you recognize it quickly and override it?
Thank you for the repeated lesson, and for the support and empathy. I truly appreciate it.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
