Heather, Get all of that anger and frustration out of your system tonight. I want you to get a good night's sleep and be ready for tomorrow. In other words, be civil. Why be civil? I don't want him to take it out on your daughter and go over the top and do something stupid that will cause her additional emotional stress. You are going to have to find a way to remain cool and calm when he arrives tomorrow.
I think that your h looks at the situation at home as you are being over protective and by being that way, poisoning the thinking of your daughters against him. This is only a guess as to what he's thinking.
Well, I hate to say this...but he's going to be mucking things up quite a bit because he knows it's the only way to get what he wants.
Unfortunately because you don't have any legal documentation, you can't demand that he provide you with the results of a drug test. However, you'll be able to tell from his actions tomorrow if he is high. If he's high, the minute that child is put in his car and he pulls out on the highway, call 911 and have him picked up.
Whatever you do, please try not to get into a verbal fighting match tomorrow. You don't want this type of thing going on in the presence of your daughter. It will not bode well for her if you do.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
He is spinning folks and crazzeeee and convinced he is being victimized to the max here. And, I'm the bad guy. I'm not sure I've ever heard or seen him like this. Someone is prodding him on.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
That helps Job. Thank you. That really helps. I can dial 911. I can have him picked up. Ok. I don't feel as powerless. Thank you.
I'm crying. D11 has a friend and is oblivious. I need to get this outta my system. I can do this. I am tough. I'm a tough cookie. He can't hurt her. She is tough too. Right?
I can do this. I can keep calm and be cool and take care of her as needed.
It's going to be ok.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Be careful...Smokey could very well not be high at all tomorrow. Not sure how I feel about Job's suggestion on calling 911 just because someone's high. Unless D is in a grave danger of getting physically harmed, I would want to evaluate Smokey's behavior tomorrow before making that determination to call 911. You just don't want to make a bad situation worse than necessary.
Goodness knows I've seen people smoke pot and get high while driving. That doesn't necessarily mean one has crossed over the "danger" red line. It all depends on how MUCH one's judgement is impaired.
Get a grip on your emotions, Heather, for the sake of your D.
This man cannot continue to call the shots like this. He cannot continue to be allowed to just walk all over people's lives. It's so fuccking unfair. She is doing so well.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Wonka, He's ALWAYS HIGH. He remains high all day. That's how he gets through. Wake and bake, midmorning, lunch, afternoon, dinner and before bed. That's what he does.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
If I were in your shoes, I couldn't call 911 just because he is high. What is the goal here? Facilitating Smokey's R with D, right?
I remember Ellie saying as long as the kids are not in danger, then you cannot tell your spouse what he/she can do or necessarily have to like their parenting style.
