You DO have the power on how you communicate with Smokey REGARDLESS of how he communications with you.
A while back, you texted Smokey this:
[Ok, I texted again, but I took your advice Job. I hope it calms him a bit.]
Me: I know you want to reconnect with Louisa and I want that too. I do. But, maybe come, see how things are going and then ask if she wants to go to lunch. It will take time to rebuild, please allow her this time.
If you had left it at this point, I think the pair of you would have been good for tomorrow. What happened after this text? You allowed your fears to run amok and you just had to text, text, and text back to Smokey.
Do you see this pattern? You came across as quite bossy, controlling, and smug in your texts.
