Heather, I'm telling you to stop texting him. You are fueling his fire and the more you do, the angrier he is getting and the more determined he will be to show you that you will not stop him from seeing his daughter as well as taking her out to lunch.
Breathe! The more your panic, the more your daughter is going to sense it. Tomorrow isn't here yet and anything can happen between now and then.
The best thing to do is sit down and talk to your daughter tonight.
No more texting...you are adding more and more fuel to his fire.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Ok. I'm done. He makes me so fukkkin angry. What an a$$hole. I'm breathing. Blaming me. That fucckin a$$hole. What an effin teenager. I'm dealing with broken down cars, and money and barn roofs and he threatens me. That stupid S.O.B. How dare he try to muck things up after I've worked so hard to put the pieces back together.
He did what he always does when confronted with a drug test. Ignores it.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
You DO have the power on how you communicate with Smokey REGARDLESS of how he communications with you.
A while back, you texted Smokey this:
[Ok, I texted again, but I took your advice Job. I hope it calms him a bit.]
Me: I know you want to reconnect with Louisa and I want that too. I do. But, maybe come, see how things are going and then ask if she wants to go to lunch. It will take time to rebuild, please allow her this time.
If you had left it at this point, I think the pair of you would have been good for tomorrow. What happened after this text? You allowed your fears to run amok and you just had to text, text, and text back to Smokey.
Do you see this pattern? You came across as quite bossy, controlling, and smug in your texts.
Smokey: I've been trying to build up to this for two years already, it's only getting worse. I'm parenting my style from now on. No more your way. I'm taking her to lunch tomorrow be there around noon. I would appreciate your support on this. If you choose not to, I will choose to no longer financially support u until ordered to do so by the court.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
