Valuation of the partnership share is complicated, and it's going to come down to what the lawyers believe a court would reasonably agree to. So it's not going to be about whether H would like to think it's worth $0 or whether Melissa would like to think it's worth $10,000. It's not worth those two dickering in emails.
The trick is figuring out which things are in that category, and shoot them straight over to the lawyer to be the fall guy.
Parenting stuff, hopefully, will not end up going into that category.
I have been learning, as I go, that I never regret being open minded, dignified, and objective...and I almost always regret being dramatic, victimized, outraged or even bitingly sarcastic, when it comes to my STBX. I'm learning where my bread is buttered and what makes me feel best about myself and the sitch I found myself in.
I did about a year's worth of reading and counseling that Melissa hasn't been here long enough to have to do, so she's gotta get on the fast track. It doesn't happen overnight, but it doesn't happen all on its own either. It's a conscious effort to practice.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
