Son of a nutcracker!

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T,
I'm glad you posted today. I'm sorry to hear that you and your family have been sick this winter, but I'm glad to see that everyone is doing much better now. Boy, I'm right there w/you...spring's not coming fast enough for any of us. It's been a long, cold, rainy/snowy winter and it's time now for the sun to shine and the blue birds to sing!

How are you doing? Are you finding time to do some things for yourself?

I'm not surprised to read that he's starting to ask questions and admit he doesn't remember some things. Yep, the Mother Ship called depression really had a hold on him and still does.
He'll continue to ask question for quite some time and he's going to be baffled by all you reveal to him because his memory during that time was mush or Swiss cheese. As for the moods, this is normal. They are still struggling w/feeling comfortable in their own skin and yet, the inner child is still struggling to stay in control. This will eventually fade away and his moods will stabilize.

There is going to come a time when the door is going to open for you to have a chat w/your h about his "friend". He's been "back" into the marriage for a few months now and Twinkle Twat needs to start fading away this spring. I do understand being tired of the roommate scenario because it does get old and very quickly. The marriage can't be worked on w/three in the picture...not healthy at all.

The vacation plans sound interesting and I do hope that everything goes well so that all of you can enjoy yourselves.

Continue to sit quietly and the answers will come. Doors will continue to open when the time is right. Continue to dig deeper for patience because your "oldest child" is still fighting his inner child and doesn't want grow up completely...just yet.

Please take care of yourself and your two little ones.

Hang in there and stay positive!