So because you wouldn't commit to being "friends", all of a sudden he decided to bare his teeth and claws? WTF? My guess is his definition of "friends" is that you don't argue with him and give him what he believes is fair. Not to mention to answer him in a time frame that he deems acceptable.
Be pleasant and neutral because you're going to have to co-parent with him. But nice? No. He's not being nice to you by sending that fricking diatribe.
I totally agree with Wonka. You have him forward all matters on the dissolution to your L and back the hell off.
I'm sure the Ls are going to tell him if he wants to split parenting time, he will no longer be able to stay in the Dad Pad. I have a few friends with kids of opposite gender, and the courts are pretty firm that boys and girls must be separated. Otherwise, he gets to share a bedroom with your S7, and I don't believe that's a great idea. Maybe temporary, but not long term.
I dunno, Melissa. I think your H sounds like a control freak who absolutely cannot handle not having his way. I see a man who is furiously stabbing at buttons to get you to engage with him - in any fashion - since it is readily apparent to him that you're not playing his game or taking on the role that you used to play (to his advantage).
His proposal is absolutely ludicrous. Insane, actually.
I hope your L can get you to a good place by the end of the day. He's nuts. I'd say your instincts are spot on.
Betsey
p.s. I don't have any delusions about the Rox either, but I love baseball and everything about it. At least the Rox don't ever look as listless and unmotivated and stupid as the Nugs do right now.
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