I have to agree with what all adinva has just just.
A question to think about. Where would your relationship be with your SO if you didn't have the business at all?
Please listen to others, stop strategizing. That's not what DB is about. Focus on you going about your life. He is not living with you correct? Whatever relationship he has with OW is not your focus and shouldn't be as he hasn't come right out and committed himself back to you. Live your life without all the constant strategizing and maybe he will start to notice.
M:40 H:42 M: 12yrs BD: 2/1/13 H moved out: 2/22/13 D: 11 Divorce started 11/13