Burying The Cat

[LoisB]

I agree. Obviously,there are ways to figure this out. He's scared. So, he is bullying. He's trying to bully me because that's what has worked in the past. Problem is, he is running out of threats. He knows I'm not scared of him leaving forever anymore.

In the past, the more frightened he is, the more he pushes and bullies and tries to scare.

I would almost welcome the court's help right now. It reminds me of when D19 went to jail. Probation served as a parent and I wasn't parenting this angry girl alone anymore. I kinda feel the same way with Smokey. The court could help D11 and take some stress off of me. It would mean the well-documented drug use would be out there and no longer a secret. It would mean I could push for counseling. We have a counselor we used in the past who had Smokey's number. She has been in town for 30 years and knows the court system here. I may need to get D11 back into to see her.

I'm the one who suggested visitation because of his inconsistent visits/contact, I've encouraged counseling for him and the girls together. It's been Smokey who has resisted. In the long run, the idea of the courts being involved should really scare him more than me. He may even get forced to get some help. Wishful thinking.

He doesn't scare me anymore. I'm ok. Holy Shid!! I'm not scared. More annoyed than anything. I was scared this morning. But, right now, I'm ok. He's a scared little man trying to push his way through so he can feel the least amount of uncomfortable.