Sounds a lot like that free will we discussed a while back.
Here's a phrase that helped me... Just take it on the chin!! You know he knows how to push your buttons... Just take it on the chin. Or a quote from one of my favorite songs... "I am a stone... Unaffected"
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14