Melissa, are you practicing? You'll get lots of agreement that what your H says should swing your emotions around, piss you off, and irritate you. No question, he's a candidate for charm school.

But you know what you're dealing with, and it's within your control to become immune to it or not.

When he asked if the friend thing was off the table, an easy response could be "I was just referring to basketball tickets here, to see if you want them." And it wouldn't hurt to add "I agree that trying to get along with one another will be good for the kids."

Who wouldn't agree with that? It's obvious. It doesn't commit you to anything, it's just a statement of fact.

Think about this. What causes your frustration in dealing with him? And how much of that is in your control? And what can you do right now to begin controlling that part?

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.