Disclose affair to family?

[tbm4evr]

I don't think I would do it. My wife had a PA for 2 months a couple years ago and now I believe may still be having an EA with some guy. I want to work things out with my W so I am not going to share any of this with her family. The way I look at it I don't need anyone knowing our business. My W's family knows I want this marriage and that it's their daughter who wants out. My wife told them it's because I'm controlling etc but who wouldn't be trying to hear who their wife is talking to or texting if they're trying to figure out if she having an affair - my wife calls that being controlling and violating her boundaries. I understand it's not right but my W thinks these affairs are justified and a symptom of our marriage. I have an uphill battle to figure out what needs to be fixed in our marriage so she won't have that desire for a P or E affair but instead will look to me for intimacy and understanding.