over 20 years ago, when my ex-h tried to re-connect with my 2 year old daughter that he hadn't seen in months, it was awful. It was part of our legal agreement that he have supervised visits until she was stable with him again. HE HATED IT, he resisted and kicked and stomped all the way..... He felt like it was about HIM!! He could only see one side and took it as a punishment.
I guess what I am trying to say...is maybe state to Smokey that it isn't about him being a bad parent (even when they are being one), but about the safety net and comfort level of your daughter. Try to find a loving way to explain to Smokey, its not about him.
Good luck
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
