I think the general feeling around here is to not leave your home. Whatever you do right now is going to irritate your w as you have already see and stated. The best thing to do is just get out of the way. She's a big girl. She can set her alarm....I don't think you should have to go hide in your room in your own home unless it is what you want to do..
^^^ I agree!!^^^
Regarding staying at home, sometimes there are unusual circumstances (such as the WAS owning the house before the M) but in general as willbwell said we do suggest staying in the home. Separation can be quite an ordeal and the WAS is the one that should suffer the inconvenience of that. Plus if there are kids they tend to view the spouse leaving the family house as the one that left the M. So if the WAS coerces the LBS into leaving, the kids may actually think the LBS "abandoned" them. And kids want familiar surroundings, so they'll feel more comfortable in the family home no matter which spouse stays there.
