I guess I am feeling HOT/COLD because I am tired and confused. I do want him back, but still fear losing him from this point if I do/say the wrong thing.
To try and stand behind my word. I am trying to get over that fear and accept what I say is good enough. Good enough for my new standards of valuing me.
I am not sure how a friendship would go. I do not want to remain a friend. Nor do I want to appear enabling him, while he has this other "friend". According to other threads ... now that I have made a boundary, I now need to stick behind it. I am willing to "listen" to him. But, "if" I do... I must learn to STFU. Not offer any advice or suggestions... just tell him that he will figure it out. Offer support. I just don't want to hear about her.
on the flip side: he made the decision to leave our R and now have a "friend"...there has to be a consequence to that action.
^^^^^ = more confusion.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
