She wants me to follow up with her on my refinancing of the house which I won't be doing
Why won't you be doing it, are you hoping to delay D? Don't do anything to obstruct the D, it will just fester resentment in your W. As hard as it is, you have to look at this as a business transaction. Deal with it in a professional manner like you would deal with something at work.
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Not that I'm snooping around cause I know the OM is still in the picture but now she has his T-shirt she wears to bed. How much more can she kick me down ?
You mean her wearing a particular shirt to bed is "kicking you down"? Ask yourself this- is that because of her or YOU? My W has never been the least bit interested in any kind of sports. OM is a Texas Rangers fan, now suddenly W is wearing Rangers shirts now and then and put a Rangers collar on MY dog when it was visiting her house with the kids, LOL! It just makes me roll my eyes, but doesn't affect my PMA in any way. It needs to be the same for you, just shrug at how silly it is and keep living your life.
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I really want to just go off on her and tell her how she has affected everyone around her with her MLC.
But you won't, right?
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The other day spoke with w about my appointment with attorney and went over about the house. She wants to make a move quick on this and the settlement agreement. I told her I still don't know about my refinancing and that theres the door. She responded I can't live like this any more and that she can qualify. I tensed up and told her if she can't live like this the door is there get the **** out till we decide and walked away. The next day she was warm and started going over our agreement. What a pushy woman !! Did I do the right thing ?
Again, treat it like a business transaction. You're letting your feelings get in the way, and that is NOT attractive to her. Be cool, calm, professional. Discuss it like adults, not like a pouty kid.
