Georgia, He didn't change w/a flip of a switch...but it may feel that way. He began to gradually change over time, approximately 18-14 months prior to the BD. The changes are so subtle that you most likely didn't pick up on them. Once they have detached from us completely and they are ready to "escape" that is when the mirror image of your h comes into play.
You can't trust him nor can you rely on him. He's found someone that he can talk to about his problems and he thinks his problems stem from being w/you. Unfortunately, that's really not the case. His problem comes from within himself. Everything associate w/his marriage, i.e., you, the kids, the home, pets, bills, etc., are all at fault for why he feels the way he does. As he continues on w/his journey, he will discover that he's mad at the world and nothing you do will please him. Why, he'll even blame you if the sky is pink!
The best thing to do is take care of you and your family. Keep the focus on you and watch your bills and your bank accounts. Protect your assets as best you can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
