As MrBond says...You ARE still letting the wife affect your actions. We have all heard those lines, so nothing surprising. Now if you changed your thinking....a more growth filled statement would be....This is what my wife said and I want your opinions on how to respond.
Hence, from us you would get;
In response to the wife stating things are done;
"I am sorry to hear that you feel this way. I will also respect your position that the marriage is over"
FYI- IT is over....Even if you reconcile, the marriage of old won't be there any more, nor should you want it.
As for no calling;
"I respect that you no longer wish to converse me and want calls/texts to end. I will grant your wish about not talking with you, but I do want to talk with my daughter regularly. So in the future, I will call at a prescribed time to talk with her. No need for you to answer, because I am calling to talk with (insert daughters name)and you can just give her the phone."
As you have limited means of communication with your daughter (most going right through your wife) I have a suggestion. I hope others share their thoughts on what I propose. What if you get your daughter her own phone? Set the phone up so it can only receive/call to your number.....hence the young girl can't be getting into phone troubles. You will have access to each other without going through your wife. Just a thought.
