So I just got back from dropping kids off at Ws house, I picked them up from school and took them to my Grandma's birthday party. It was a nice evening with the family and my Grandma really loved the fact that the kids were there.
When I dropped the kids off I brought my good feeling self into the house and kept up my PMA. W and I had some small talk, told me about one of her professors calling her and telling her he was a little disappointed in her effort. I told her I hope he wasn't trying to break her spirit because she does not half ass anything, you know, trying to be supportive.
I asked her when her plane leaves on Saturday and said I would be at her place around 8 and she replies that she thought I was getting the kids on Friday not Saturday.
Our original schedule has me getting them on Saturday and I had plans to go out with my parents and aunt from out of town of Friday.
I tell her I had plans and she said she has to teach class that evening and her work winter party. So I tell her OK I will cancel my plans and get the kids because her work is important.
I was irritated at the moment, but didn't show it took much, but I am sure she noticed some disappointment on my face.
She said she would cancel her class, her students probably wouldn't mind, and not go to her work party.
Now this is where I thought, stay calm, and support her and her job. So I reiterate that "I will cancel my plans and take the kids, your job is important."
I don't know if this was the right move or not. Sometimes I feel that she is cake eating, but I love having the kids and I want her to know that I do support her. Also did not want to start an argument, and my job had dictated what her schedule was for the last 6 months we were together so I felt it is my turn now.
Good move or not?
I gave the kids tons of hugs and kisses and my oldest wanted to give me a "Card" which was a piece of mail he scribbled on. It was a bill so I couldn't take it and he was a little sad.
Then he runs into his room and brings me his Valentine's box he made at school and told me he made it for me and wanted me to have it. He was so proud of himself and grinning ear to ear.
I have never felt so much love like that in a long time. Made me choke up a little bit on my way out. Hell, I am still teary-eyed looking at it up on my dresser. Kids are the best.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15