I know it doesn't feel that happy, and I'm sorry for that.
You are where I was not too long ago. Everything your H says reminds you that he doesn't live there anymore, and things aren't the way you want them to be, and it hurts.
I used to hate it when my H would refer to the house as "your" house.
I don't know your H, but I am guessing he doesn't mean any harm by it. I think that my H calls it my house because either (a) he likes it, it makes him feel separated from me; or (b) he is trying to be respectful in his own strange way. I don't think he is purposely hurting my feelings.
Is there any text your H could have sent you that would be acceptable to you? I'm guessing not. My H didn't say happy birthday to me all day. I felt like sh!t all day. Then he came over with the kids and they had baked me a cake in the shape of and decorated like a baseball park (I love baseball), and a thoughtful gift from the kids. Guess what? I still felt like sh!t.
The truth is, it all svcks because it's not what you want. But why allow yourself to get worked up and upset each time he says or does something that reminds you that you are S? None of it changes your reality. You already know you are S. So when you find yourself getting upset, ask yourself: "is this a change?" For me, most of the time, the answer is no.
3boyz posted this morning on Scorp's thread about living with your reality. Pop over and check it out if you haven't seen it already. I know it's not that fun to read, or to do, but it will help.
Hope you are recuperated soon, and you get that sushi!
(((artsy)))
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
