Right now, my h is paying the mortgage, to the mortgage co. Everything else related to the home and kids is being paid by me, and i need to make more money to start breaking even or even saving.
My h got a calculation of what his child support would be, and the mortgage is a few hundred more, so he suggested this arrangement is advantageous for me.
From a purely math standpoint i think it cheats the kids because hes paying some of that right to himself in equity.
I was surprised this lawyer thought, other than technical issues about who the checks need to be written to, this might not be a bad deal. With more time we'd have to look at who gets the tax writeoff etc but the big numbers arent far off, she thought. Especially with my cashflow problem.
I was surprised that a 19 yr marriage and h making twice what i make, the courts would not favor any spousal support.
I don't mind forgoing vacations manicures and dog treats, but i feel bad that i dont have more for the kids when h seems to have plenty.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
