melissa #999

[melissag]

I don't want to focus on my H being a so-and-so, and I'm not blaming him for everything, but I just want someone to check me on this.

Am I reading into something when I view his emails/texts as antagonistic?

"I'm not trying to be a pain in the ass, but I thought I sent you a proposal a month and a half ago."

The other day, we were talking and got distracted from the topic at hand. When we steered the convo back around, I said, "OK, what were you saying about X?" and he said, "I believe I asked you a question." Then a few minutes later, "can you scroll back to find it or do I need to repeat it?"

I ask bc I used to say, "H, it's very antagonistic when you say always of never or 'As I have already said . . .', etc." He told me that's the way he talked and I should get over it.

Sometimes when I think of how dysfunctional (on both ends) some of our conversations were, I wonder how we stayed married asking as we did.