Ugh. Guilty as charged. I had a hard time letting things go with my H. His apologies were rarely apologies. Most often he would defend himself and argue the point for a long while before "giving in" and apologizing. And would then be resentful about it (written all over his face and his behavior). I wanted a genuine apology so I would keep beating a dead horse.
There sure are a lot of things I would do differently if I could do it over again. I'm not sure they would have made a difference in the end result, but you never know.
Great point, 25. Something to remember going forward.
Oh, and 25, I haven't emailed my H just yet - decided to wait until after TKD. I don't know how he will react but based on past experience, I don't want to risk getting scowled at for an hour. So maybe I'll add in some of your script.
It's a hard balance bc if I say anything other than facts my H tends to attack whatever it is; but if I say nothing he attacks based on his (worst case scenario) assumptions. Maybe I'll just act "as if" he will respond nicely regardless.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
