Afraid I have waited too long

[zew]

Well since I'm here, I'm no expert, but I'll give you the pep talk, for what it's worth.

You discussed the financial reality. If it was a heated argument, that's a setback. If it wasn't an argument, as you suggest, then she probably heard about half of it, and it will have no bearing on anything.

I know I can't control what happens.

Well you can't control what she's doing, anyway, so stop letting it bug you so much.

but I hope I didn't drive her farther away and into the OM arms.

I don't think the money talk has anything to do with that. The OM is another addiction altogether. And you know you can't do anything about it, so stop tormenting yourself.

In other folk's experiences, do these type of discussions sometimes lead to the WAW rethinking their desire to R?

If it were that easy, we would all be spending ourselves broke, then having the conversation. But seriously, I would hope that reality eventually clears WAW thinking, but financial concerns are NOT going to be the big "Aha!" driver. It's going to take seeing that staying has different and better possibilities than last time.

So I think you're way overthinking this one.
Relax. GAL and detach - what on earth do her "likes" on social media have to do with YOUR future.

I noticed recently that the first thing my W reads in the morning is her horoscope. Really? That's what holds the fate of my M? That's my first reminder every day to stay detached and get to work on me. I can't torment myself waiting for my future to be decided by someone watching the stars.