Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

I am feeling a bit uneasy at the moment.

I feel I did the right thing by bringing up money issues just not sure if I did it in the right fashion.

Because I feel this way does that mean that all my hard work at DB has gone kaput over one discussion where I thought I did a good job at validating and empathizing?

Could really use some veteran advice right now.

I didn't expect my W to happy about having that discussion and I didn't think I was controlling or patronizing or nothing but kind and understanding. I felt this discussion had to take place when it did. I hope maybe her being away might allow her to take a serious look at her sitch and realize what I was saying was not meant to show her up at all. I just made my feelings and desires known as it pertains to our financial state. Was I right to do so?

I know I can't control what happens but I hope I didn't drive her farther away and into the OM arms.

I have no experience with this that is why I am at a loss.

In other folk experiences, do these type of discussions sometimes lead to the WAW rethinking their desire to R.

People have told me that she is liking things on a social media site the last couple days that would suggest she is trying to convince herself or others that she is moving on. She has shut me out of her page on that since I moved back.

I don't put much stock in that stuff especially because right after she likes these things she also likes something my SIL put on there about loving my brother so much and thanking him for being there and wanting to be M.

Nobody knows anything about my W and my sitch since I moved back so that post was not put on there with any intent as far as I know.

My W has kept in touch with my family through texts all along after the S.

I told my family that is fine with me. I am not sure she is still in contact with them since I moved back or not(she blamed my family for pushing me to move back). I think she backed off that position in time since.

Feeling somewhat better after typing this but could sure use some feedback about my current dilemma.

It is just so strange for the last two weeks It has been different between us. I have no expectations and realize she can turn on a dime at any moment but we were talking at least a little more than just Hi and bye(mostly from me).

No R talk because I don't want that but maybe any talk at all is considered a R talk to my W.

I know she isn't thinking straight because who forgets Feb is a short month. I know she has a lot going on in her life right now and that is why I am doing my best to help any way I can but when certain thing become an issue they need to be dealt with no matter what. Is that correct to think that way?