Ab Fab, I know what you are talking about when you describe all these weird things happening. Sometimes you cannot logically explain something you think should be so simple. I’ve had some of these recently. I’m trying to not put any kind of explanation. It is hard, but manageable. As for the text, I think he probably was thinking about you and then didn’t switch his mind to his “real” life.
I find it a bit odd that he is still paying the bills and still using a joint account. I’m curious what his wife has to say about all of it. If he is hiding it from her, then their relationship is not based on honesty and trust. It will fall apart eventually.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state