Hi Lois, that's great you had a date and got out! Good for you! It's good to just be friends like that, just something fun to do for you. I was wondering about that eharmony, I have a profile on match just to peruse other profiles. Last thing I need is a relationship either, just wanted to maybe enjoy some fun time out. I haven't paid for it yet so I can't read the emails that come in on it. Is eharmony more reasonable? I feel sort of weird about it because I'm still working through this whole MLC mess but he moved out so I have move to slowly move forward. That's great you were able to pay all your bills, what a great feeling!!! YOU did this, you should be very proud. Sorry to hear about the car breaking down, this too shall pass!! Tina
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
Just to clarify, I've been at this awhile. I stood for 24 months. My H left two years ago, the end of Jan. So, I've worked through a lot of grief and feel satisfied that I've done what I could to save the marriage. We are starting to hash out details for the dissolution.
Don't rush this process. I'm still not satisfied I'm ready to open myself for another relationship just yet, but I feel ready to get my feet wet and have friendships with men. I'm trying to slowly get comfortable that there are other trustworthy men out there.
Thanks for stopping by :-)
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Just a word of advice for you about your forester buddy - know yourself.
If you are the kind of person who can have a fling and accept it for a temporary moment, without getting "stuck" on the person - well, go for it!
I had some fun relationships with men who were clearly unsuitable or unavailable, and we are still excellent friends and it was good for me at the time.
My best friend, in contrast, had one brief affair with an unavailable guy and has struggled and struggled to get over it - she just doesn't detach easily.
So it's important to know who you are - and don't go there if you are not the type of person who can accept it is going to have a finite end.
Heather, eHarmony is okay...but be cautious because sometimes the people posting are not what they think they are. An example, I meet this guy on that site and he was telling me about how he was a physical fitness nut and jogged/walked each and every day as well as biked. Well, I did meet him in DC and what a shock. The man looked like the vampires had gotten to him because he was as white as a ghost, no color that would indicate an outdoorsy type of person and we walked the entire mall and he was panting and exhausted after the first walk between three buildings. Oh, here's a good one for you...the entire time he's complaining about having a very low libido and wasn't much interested in sex. Who talks about such stuff walking around a public place.
A few more examples, I had a dentist interested in meeting up, but what he wanted was a new wife to replace the one that had divorced him...why? He had 5 kids and he wanted a built in babysitter.
Another one...his idea of a wonderful date was taking a row boat out in the middle of the Bay, with a cooler of Coors and fishing all night.
I could go on and on and yes, my computer was lit up constantly but what got me is that I was very, very honest when doing the "personality" bio.
Any way, just be careful and have some fun.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks Job. I agree. I really like having a fake name and age actually. The guys who pass my first inspection are given my real FIRST name and age and situation. So far, this working for me. We shall see.
I seem to continue to get matched with men who have raised their kids alone which, I think, means my high standards in the settings are working. Who knows. No meetings yet.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
I seem to have pretty good online radar, all the guys I met looked pretty much like their pictures and were pretty much as advertised.
Although there were a few scammers online - one guy who was always out of town on business and who claimed to be a jeweler - I put the pictures he sent me through Tineye, turned out they were pics of the Titanic movie jewels lol. Find out quickly if there's chemistry or not, and if they're weird or not.
Oops - lost part of my post. I meant to say, only talk online long enough to find out if they're nutty or not - then go straight to a brief coffee date. The online part is only for meeting.
